We welcome people who wants to learn more about non-monogamy, whether you're simply curious or are actively practicing some form of non-monogamy.
Experience with non monogamy is not required to attend. We welcome:
This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, and accountability. We invite you into our safe space and hope that you feel welcome and at home here.
This event follows the same template as Open Heart Gatherings potlucks organized by Rose, used with her consent. Rose is not the organizer of the event, please contact Alan with any questions.
Address will be posted in chat for everyone who RSVPs.
Brad’s Home in Sunnyvale; the listed event address (1035 Indian Wells Ave, Sunnyvale) is Muwékma Park across the street (where I recommend you park!).
Three-story townhome, potluck will be on the second floor, so you'll have to ascend a flight of stairs to participate.
I don't have any, service animals are welcome.
If you attend these potlucks often, you may be looking for the Eventbrite link so you can get a free ticket to reserve your spot. There is no corresponding Eventbrite link, the only prep actions before day-of are to RSVP here on Bloom and sign up in the Potluck signup below.
WHEN ARE THINGS HAPPENING?
We request that you show up on time! If you cannot, show up by 7PM at the latest.
6:30 PM - 7:15 PM
Potluck Dinner and Socializing
7:15 PM - 7:30 PM
Welcome circle, community guidelines, topic
7:30 PM - 8:15 PM
Small Group Discussion
8:15 PM - 8:30 PM
Topic suggestions and requests will be taken from attendees. Here's a list of possible topics. Share in the Bloom event chat which ones call to you that you'd like to see discussed.
This is a dinner potluck event, so bring food to share. Potluck sign up HERE
Your potluck contribution can be home cooked or take out. All options are much preferred to 5 different types of chips and dip, so please check the potluck sign up before grabbing your food.
If you want a challenge, there are usually people attending who would appreciate Gluten Free, Vegan, Vegetarian, or Low Sugar foods.
Street parking: Muwékma Park
Cross the street to arrive at Brad’s place
Please read all of the guidelines if you are new, (or if it has been a while since you attended) including the safer space guidelines
COMMUNITY AND LIFESTYLE OVERLAP : Strive to be Aware and Considerate in conversation
CONSENT AND RESPECTING BOUNDARIES
HOLDING SPACE FOR EACH OTHER
If you feel comfortable doing so, hold space for each other. Holding space means letting others speak their truth, without assumptions, judgement, or trying to fix them. Sometimes this is the only place where someone can have space held for them to simply be and express what they are experiencing.
If you need to leave early, please by all means take care of yourself. Please check in with the host on your way out in case there's some action I can take to support you.
SAFER SPACE GUIDELINES
We strive to provide a “safer space” for community members. What do we mean by “safer space”?
In short, a “safer space” is a place where behavioral guidelines support each of us in guarding each person’s self-respect and dignity, a place for open and honest communication, where one has the freedom to speak or not to speak, where one takes responsibility for recognizing one’s own triggers as well as how (and when) other people are triggered, where confidentiality, empathy, and compassion are encouraged and difference is accepted.
Our “safer space” guidelines CANNOT AND DO NOT guarantee your safety, nor do they guarantee that you will always feel safe.
Each of us is responsible for setting and communicating clear boundaries when engaging with people at events. All attendees must respect the physical and personal boundaries of other attendees at all times.
Keep in mind that you can make someone uncomfortable without intending to do so. Comments that may seem innocuous to you can be painful to others. Light touch, hugging, cuddling, and other seemingly innocent forms of physical contact can be offensive or alarming when such touch is given without explicit permission.
Pro-Tip for new attendees: Circulate at events. Be graceful. If you’re enjoying talking to someone, give him or her the opportunity to exit the conversation anyway.
We do not tolerate harassment of any kind. If you harass someone, you will be asked to leave and may be banned from future events. Harassment includes (but is not limited to) making unwelcome sexual advances; making comparative comments about age, race, religion, nationality, sexual expression, gender expression, sexual orientation, weight, or lifestyle; touching, photographing, or recording people without their explicit permission; demanding contact information from others; deliberate intimidation; mockery; stalking; following; and sustained disruption of events.
We believe that most people who attend our events do so without ill intentions. However, if you experience or witness inappropriate behavior, please bring it to the attention of the organizer, host, or a person at the event that you feel safe with.
Note regarding after hours energy, adapted from Rose's invite email:
At most Open Heart Gathering potlucks you may expect to see people hugging, cuddling, kissing, and familiar touch.
The after hours energy at Brad's has in the past leaned into cozy, cuddly, sensual touch connection energy time that has felt just a touch "more than usual" PDA (public displays of affection) than most Open Heart Gathering events. If you are comfortable with this vibe you can look forward to being in a space where people are visibly cozy, snuggly, massage and sensual touch friendly with people they are familiar with.
There may be massage/touch energy work happening, which can sometimes lead to a layer or two of clothing being removed for better massage access.
I mention this as a heads-up so you can check in with yourself and make informed decisions about how late you may want to stay and what you are comfortable with.
For attendees that would not be comfortable with being around this level of PDA or possible partial undress you may want to leave after the official discussion time is over.
Expected attendance of 30ish.