Meet and connect with non monogamous people over a shared potluck meal and conversation
EVENTBRITE TICKET REQUIRED TO HOLD YOU A SPOT AT THE EVENT.
RSVP on Bloom is encouraged for connection opportunities with other attendees but do not count as an attendance ticket.
We welcome people who wants to learn more about non-monogamy, whether you're simply curious or are actively practicing some form of non-monogamy. Experience with non monogamy is not required to attend. We welcome:
This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, and accountability. We invite you into our safe space and hope that you feel welcome and at home here.
Erik’s Home in Sunnyvale. Event address located in the EVENTBRITE email confirmation.
Small step into house, a few steps into living room space. Small step out to patio space.
There is a cat named Gatsby that will be confined to Erik’s bedroom closet, but he usually has free reign of the house. If you are allergic medicate accordingly.
WHEN ARE THINGS HAPPENING?
We request that you show up on time! If you cannot, show up by 5PM at the latest
4pm - 5:15pm: Socializing and Potluck Food Time
5:15pm - 5:30pm: Opening Circle, Community Guidelines, Topic
5:30pm - 6:30pm: Small group discussion time - Break into small groups and share our thoughts and experiences on the topic, or choose your own topic
6:30pm - 6:45pm: Gather back into one large group. Opportunity to share with the entire group
6:45pm - 8pm: Freestyle socializing
-NRE (New Relationship Energy) experienced in shiny new relationships
-ORE. (Old Relationship Energy) also referred to as SRE (Steady Relationship Energy)
How would you describe these different energies?
Time frame you've experienced for how long NRE can last in different relationships before shifting to SRE?
Have you ever found yourself looking forward to (or dreading?) the NRE stage?
Have you ever found yourself looking forward to (or dreading?) a relationship shifting from NRE to SRE energy?
Other topic options : Want to chat about something specific? Here's a list of possible topics. Share in the event chat which ones call to you that you'd like to see discussed.
This is a late lunch - early dinner potluck event, so bring food to share. Potluck sign up HERE
Your potluck contribution can be home cooked or take out. All options are much preferred to 5 different types of chips and dip, so please check the potluck sign up before grabbing your food.
If you want a challenge, there are usually people attending who would appreciate Gluten Free, Vegan, Vegetarian, or Low Sugar foods.
Street parking is very accessible on nearby streets.
Please read all of the guidelines if you are new, (or if it has been a while since you attended) including the safer space guidelines
COMMUNITY AND LIFESTYLE OVERLAP : Strive to be Aware and Considerate in conversation
CONSENT AND RESPECTING BOUNDARIES
HOLDING SPACE FOR EACH OTHER
If you feel comfortable doing so, hold space for each other. Holding space means letting others speak their truth, without assumptions, judgement, or trying to fix them. Sometimes this is the only place where someone can have space held for them to simply be and express what they are experiencing.
SAFER SPACE GUIDELINES
We strive to provide a “safer space” for community members. What do we mean by “safer space”?
In short, a “safer space” is a place where behavioral guidelines support each of us in guarding each person’s self-respect and dignity, a place for open and honest communication, where one has the freedom to speak or not to speak, where one takes responsibility for recognizing one’s own triggers as well as how (and when) other people are triggered, where confidentiality, empathy, and compassion are encouraged and difference is accepted.
Our “safer space” guidelines CANNOT AND DO NOT guarantee your safety, nor do they guarantee that you will always feel safe.
Each of us is responsible for setting and communicating clear boundaries when engaging with people at events. All attendees must respect the physical and personal boundaries of other attendees at all times.
Keep in mind that you can make someone uncomfortable without intending to do so. Comments that may seem innocuous to you can be painful to others. Light touch, hugging, cuddling, and other seemingly innocent forms of physical contact can be offensive or alarming when such touch is given without explicit permission.
Pro-Tip for new attendees: Circulate at events. Be graceful. If you’re enjoying talking to someone, give him or her the opportunity to exit the conversation anyway.
We do not tolerate harassment of any kind. If you harass someone, you will be asked to leave and may be banned from future events. Harassment includes (but is not limited to) making unwelcome sexual advances; making comparative comments about age, race, religion, nationality, sexual expression, gender expression, sexual orientation, weight, or lifestyle; touching, photographing, or recording people without their explicit permission; demanding contact information from others; deliberate intimidation; mockery; stalking; following; and sustained disruption of events.
We believe that most people who attend our events do so without ill intentions. However, if you experience or witness inappropriate behavior, please bring it to the attention of the organizer, host, or a person at the event that you feel safe with.