Recharge your batteries in a beautiful Northern California box valley with four days of frolicking friends.
Take a break. Unplug from social media. This weekend is about you. It's about us. It's about connecting – deeply – with our amazing community of people with shared values and a common sense of possibility. It's about rebuilding your personal reserves so that you can return to the world stronger, braver, better connected, and hopefully well-loved.
For this weekend, your life can be filled with unadulterated PLAY.
The Bonobo Network retreat is, without a doubt, the best way to experience our community. You'll have the time and space to go as deep or broad as you would like. Relax with us at a beautiful Northern California retreat center, where you'll be able to:
Whatever you choose, this weekend is yours to create. The Bonobo Network Retreat is back. For an eighth year, we'll co-create a profound experience of sensuality, community, friendship, learning, laughter, and play.
For full lineup, visit https://bonoboretreat.com
For full lineup, visit https://bonoboretreat.com
The Art of Sensual Kissing with Marla Renee Stewart
Get Your Flirt On with Marcia Baczynski
Hand Sex Grad School with Reid Mihalko
Buckle Up! Pegging Basics with Allison Moon
Erotic Play+Ground with Caity Reilly
The Bonobo Way with William Winters
Queergasm Meet-Up with Olivia and Remy
Bonobos Of Color Meet-Up with Jenny O
1) Buy one Standard, PrimeMate, or Volunteer ticket per person.
2) Buy a separate accommodation, if desired. Cabins, Private Rooms, Dorm Beds, RV spots, or cars inside the grounds are all available for purchase. [These sell out fast.]
3) Tent Camping is included in the ticket price.
Want a discount? Sign up for a volunteer shift!
This is NOT a no one turned away for lack of funds event due to the cost of putting on this event (see explanation below). However, if you need a steeper discount make a request to firstname.lastname@example.org.
NOTE: Retreat ticket and room purchase are separate charges. Rooms will sell out fast! Some rooms have bunk beds. Please notify us of accessibility issues if pertinent.
Bonobo is committed to making our events accessible to all no matter your income level. We value all our members and what they contribute.
Unfortunately, we CANNOT afford to make our retreat a No One Turned Away For Lack Of Funds event, mainly owing to the large cost and financial risk of producing this event. Discounts beyond volunteer discounts are available. You can make a request by messaging email@example.com directly.
We also offer an installment payment option to make it easy to reserve a spot even if you can't buy a ticket upfront. You will see a payment plan option in the ticket list.
Also, we strongly encourage folks who need discounts to sign up for a volunteer shift and claim a volunteer discount, volunteer shifts go fast.
It takes a lot of help to support this event. About half the participants volunteer in some way.
Tickets for 4 hours of work exchange during the event:
Tickets for 6 hours of work
Tickets for 2 days of work
The retreat managers are happy to discuss any specific accessibility needs. Let us know how we can help. The property is rustic and was built before ADA requirement laws. The main grounds contain gravel and grass and are relatively flat for outdoor land.
Want to invite a friend to this or future parties? Great! Start by sending them the application form: https://apply.bonobonetwork.com.
As you consider referring someone, remember the following:
If your friend doesn't meet these criteria, or if you haven't known them long enough to know whether they meet these criteria, please consider endorsing them a little later.
What began as a series of small parties in Summer 2010 has grown into a community that has served 3,000 people around the Bay Area and the world. Our community is united by the following principles, which inform how we orient towards the spaces we share and how we treat one another:
High Possibility, Low Expectation: Our communities are best when they're treated as high possibility, low expectation spaces. That means two things: first, that all kinds of awesome sexy interactions are possible, but that no one should be expected to interact with you in any particular way. No one owes you anything. Second, we often attend these events with an expectation of the type or quality of experience we should have. While anything is possible, you'll probably have a much better experience if you lose those expectations of yourself and open yourself up to the abundance of connection of all kinds available to you at the party. Low expectation DOES NOT mean "low desire" – we believe it's helpful to have a well-explored and articulated sense of what you want and to hold those desires lightly.
Trust and Integrity: Parties like ours are built on trust – that's what allows us to be as open and welcoming and vulnerable as we can be inside those spaces. But this requires that we all show up in full integrity, pledging to be our most trustworthy. Three important implications of this : keep the identities of folks at our events confidential, proactively disclose relevant safer sex risks, and take exquisite care of the venues, spaces, and neighborhood ecosystems that host us.
Consent: We agree that we will only physically engage with one another, including nonsexual touch, where there is CLEAR CONSENT. We define consent as an ongoing collaboration between two or more people in constant verbal, physical, and emotional dialogue about what each other needs to safely, willingly, and pleasurably interact with one another. Gold standard consent in Bonobo Network is affirmative, informed, unpressured, specific, competently given, and ongoing. Respecting and valuing consent isn't just about preventing violations that shred trust -- it's also about making sure that everyone has as much space as they need to fully occupy their yes. Please read our Consent and Accountability Policy (https://bit.ly/bonoboconsentpolicy) for more details on how we approach consent and accountability.
High Challenge, High Support: Play parties can be challenging and emotionally complex, even for seasoned veterans. We’re committed to making the play parties we throw high challenge, high support environments. We come together to celebrate and play at our edges. To fully support that endeavor, we provide a dedicated nonsexual space at each party for folks who need to get away from the intensity of the gathering. It means recruiting a team of angels who are available to provide counseling and social support throughout the party. And it means encouraging everyone who attends to commit to being an angel for everyone around them.
Incident Reporting If your boundaries are crossed at the party, or if someone acts in ways that are not in accordance with Bonobo's culture, please report the incident to an angel or party host. If you can't report at the party, you can file an incident report online at http://bit.ly/btincidentreport.
Everyone Contributes: Parties like this are never the work of a single organizer -- it takes the participation and contribution of a host of people. Everyone who attends is expected to co-create the party: money, time, energy, enthusiasm, work, intention, example, concern and/or awareness.
Inclusion: We are dedicated to fostering inclusion in our community. No matter your race, ethnicity, gender identity, or class background, we want everyone who participates in this community to understand that they belong here, and that they have as much of a stake in what happens here as anyone else does. While we recognize that everyone is on a learning curve when it comes to learning how to foster such an atmosphere, we also commit to a stance of learning -- and supporting one another's learning -- of how to be excellent to one another.
This is a dynamic list, ever growing, changing, and deepening as this grand experiment in connection continues. Thanks to you all for playing mad scientist with us.