Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game

Oct 5, 2 AM -
Oct 26, 4:15 AM
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Wednesdays • October 4th, 11th, 18th, and 25th

7–9:15pm PST • Zoom


Do you and your partner miss that old feeling of excitement and passion that has faded into complacency and predictability?

Do you yearn to reignite the spark in your relationship and unlock a whole new level of connection?

Struggling with different libidos, relating to sex like it’s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect sexually that feel genuine and pleasurable.

Renowned intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and her husband Sebastian Clarke of offer this course to give couples effective tools for rediscovering nourishing intimacy and practical steps for creating lasting change.

This safe and supportive environment will allow you to unearth the specific challenges and beliefs that have hindered your intimacy and learn tailor-made strategies to overcome them. Through carefully curated activities, exercises, and discussions, they’ll guide you on a sensual journey to reignite desire, explore new pleasures, and rejuvenate your romantic connection.


In this experiential course, you will:

* Identify the specific barriers that have impeded intimacy in your relationship and receive effective tools that will help you overcome them together.

* Gain insights into how emotional and physical intimacy intertwine, and how to create a harmonious blend of both in your relationship.

* Learn how to create a safe space to explore your feelings, needs, and desires with clear communication, vulnerability, and empathy.

* Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure.

* Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your turn on and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.


Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.


You will receive a customizable roadmap with the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy Booklet, which will support you to:

* Identify your specific intimacy blockers including pressure, insecurities, shame, conflict, stress, and more along with the skills to overcome them

* Engage in self-reflection exercises designed to foster a deeper understanding of your desires, needs, and fears when it comes to intimacy.

* Use the informational handouts to easily refer back to and remember the concepts, activities, and tools shared throughout the course.

* Select and record the specific practices and techniques that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy long after the course concludes.


Add on optional individualized weekly coaching support for more in-depth integration:


For those seeking additional support, the optional add-on coaching package will enable you and your partner to more thoroughly explore the nuances of your relationship dynamics. In these weekly coaching sessions with Sebastian, you will receive expert guidance so you can more fully process and integrate the material presented in each of the four classes.


In these coaching sessions, you will experience:

A private container: These sessions provide a safe and confidential space for you and your partner to face and move through any challenging obstacles and complex relational dynamics that may feel too entrenched to handle alone.

Personalized attention: Sebastian will offer insights, accountability, and encouragement as you navigate the intricacies of creating sustainable intimacy. He’ll help you identify your blindspots and follow through with the actions needed to create lasting change.

Roadmap development: Sebastian will tailor his guidance to your unique needs, providing custom exercises and strategies that complement your strengths and address your areas of growth so your relationship can reach its fullest potential.

Limited spots available, secure yours today! 



Regular Ticket — $495 for 2 people

Ticket + 4 Weekly Coaching Sessions — $1295 for 2 people

$100 Early Bird Discount thru Aug 31st!



"My partner and I have been so caught up in parenting, work and life that we had started to feel more like coworkers than in a relationship. We left the workshop feeling more connected both emotionally and sexually and also so much clearer about what caused us to fall into that rut and how to avoid it moving forward. We wholeheartedly recommend this course!" - S. M.


"We have tried so many things that haven’t worked and I can honestly say this was the profound reset for our relationship that I had started to question if it was even possible. I am so grateful to Dr. Aly and Seb for their assistance, humor, and thoughtfulness in the ways they made the material so accessible and applicable." - C. T.


"This workshop gave us the traction we’ve been hungry for in a way that feels authentic, accessible and real. We know what we need to work on and what each of us can do to show up more fully for the other. We already feel so much closer and are excited to continue to put this into action so we can maintain our intimacy." J. C.


Instructor Bios

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.


Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke, for this brand new offering. In their coaching practice, they frequently work with couples in long term relationships who are struggling to keep the spark alive. Through offering experiential practices, they support these couples to find new ways of being in connection with each other. It’s deeply rewarding for them to help couples unpack old patterns and unconscious habits and revitalize their intimacy to reignite feelings of excitement, desire, and passion.   


Important Info

* Tickets are sold in pairs. If you want to come as a group of 3 or more, contact

* We welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, races and ethnicities.

* A limited number of sliding scale tickets are available. Apply for a sliding scale ticket or send an email to to volunteer. 

* Please note tickets are not refundable. You may transfer them to another pair of individuals but not to a future event.

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Ask the Sexperts: A Free Event, online on Sept 13th

In this free event, intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and her husband Sebastian Clarke of for Ask the Sexperts: A Free Event will answer your questions about cultivating and sustaining nourishing sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s).


From Pressure to Pleasure: Reclaim Your Desire, online on Sept 20th

Pressure around sex is a common challenge so many of us face and it can transform an opportunity for connection and pleasure into a daunting and stress-inducing ordeal. Navigating performance anxiety, differences in libido or desires, and expectations that you should feel differently than you do can make enjoying intimacy feel inaccessible if not impossible. Whether you're navigating a new romance or in a long-term relationship, addressing and alleviating this pressure is a crucial step toward feeling more connected with your body and your lover. Learn how to reduce pressure and feel empowered to move towards desire, pleasure, and intimacy.


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